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Happy Thanksgiving and All That Jazz

You know I was marveling at how seemingly progressive New Mexico is since I started commuting here for work.  At how they are so friendly (mostly) and that they are for the most part here in Las Cruces, not so far to the right politically.  I’m in complete admiration of their state transportation department being so proactive with things like repairing potholes and guard rails and such.  Then there is their roadkill patrol which still amazes the hell out of me.  But I have to ask this one thing if y’all considerer yourselves so environmentally conscience, why or why don’t you have emissions tests for your fucking vehicles!?!?!  You see, after all the state of New Mexico does to be environmentally conscience they overlook the one thing that causes the most pollution, their cars.  I get it, Texas is a bigger state and has more vehicles per capita but at least we can’t renew our vehicle registration without an emissions test!! I mean I guess what do you expect from a state that has a place called Truth or Consequences?

I had always wondered why there were so many cars and trucks in El Paso had New Mexico license plates, hell two of my neighbors have cars with NM license plates and wondered about that.  Now I know why, because they don’t have to pay for yearly vehicle registration in New Mexico.  Oh no, not here in the progressive state of the Land of Entrapment.  No, here they go ahead and waive the yearly vehicle registration and instead impose a state income tax.  So now I have to pay federal and state income tax.  The only consolation is that I know my Texas state registered vehicle isn’t polluting the supposed clean New Mexican air like most vehicles that coal roll you at a stop light while driving to pick up lunch.

Remember this guy? Yeah no emissions sticker….

The Burnout Still Persists

I’ve had this burnout feeling since before my lovely doctor confirmed that I had hit menopause.  I think if she hadn’t said anything I may not be feeling like this.  Yes, call me crazy but remember I worked at a medical school for six years, two of them in the OBGYN department.  I know how those doctors think and they said that a lot of what they tell their patience affect them psychologically.  So, I’m no doctor but I think that if I hadn’t been told I’d hit menopause I wouldn’t feel so fucking tired.  But who knows, I could have just chalked it up to the commute to work.  Anything would be better than……..MENOPAUSE.

My doctor also told me that I needed to keep up with my exercise routine to try and keep the fatigue at bay.  I’m like, sure, sure doc, hold on while I take the shank I keep in my purse out while you calmly tell me this again.  She did say bursts of anger might get worse (shudder) but I say, who’d know this since I’m just the happiest person on earth, right?  Say yes or else….*holds shank up to computer screen*


This will be the first Thanksgiving without my dad.  We (my boys and I) are going to try to make the best of it for my mom since I really don’t know how my moms going to react.  She seems to be doing well and making progress, but I’m just waiting for the moment when it will all go south.  But I expect that it’s going to happen since the holiday’s were my dad’s favorite time of year.  Mostly because of the food, he just loved to eat and he liked all of the food my mom made.  I’ve started a recipe book of all my moms’ recipes so that I can pass that on to my boys for when it’s my time to leave this earth.  One of those recipes is for tamales, my mom made the best tamales ever!  So, the week before Christmas we’re going to get together to make a couple of dozen.  It takes a team of people to work the assembly line of tamale making especially if your making more than two dozen.   My mom also makes ham and brisket for Christmas, yes, it’s a lot of food but I have three grown men who can eat their weight in food.   Which if I think about it makes almost 800 pounds of food just for the three of them.   Yeah, that’s pretty scary and makes me wonder how I managed feed them while they were growing up?

Getting My Ph.D……Maybe

My boss and I had a very long conversation the other day about literally everything.  I think he began to feel comfortable around me and started to give me his ideas on how he wanted this department of ours to go.  Especially now since Karen will be moving out of her office for good.  I told him about what Karen had said about pursuing my doctorate and his response was, why not?  I was like, what? He explained that I should consider it since he’s looking to expand our department and will eventually want to hire an associate director (I wondered if he was hinting or something?) and that a Ph.D might come in handy for me later on in my “career.”  He said I should seriously think about it because the university flips the bill for your education if you’re an employee no matter what degree your going after.  Phoebe is going to school to get her masters in Environmental Engineering.  I swear that kid was born in the wrong decade because she’s a hippy at heart wanting to save the entire world.  In any case now I’m contemplating a doctorate degree but only if I find something I’d want a Ph.D in.   

Yeah….I’m not into titles but only for the assholes (the list is long) who thought I couldn’t do it

A small part of me wants to go for it because I know I could and the sound of “Dr. Huntress” has a nice ring to it.  But I wouldn’t make anyone call me Dr, and another part of me wants to do it just for spite, yes, yes let me explain.  When I was divorcing my stupid ex-husband the last words he ever said to me while I was packing up my things to move into my mom’s house was, “you won’t get far without me, you will always need someone to give you everything. No one is going to want a divorced woman with three kids.”  Yes, ladies and gents the stupid, misogynistic asshole actually said that.  But what did I expect when his dumbass mother perpetuated his machismo attitude.  Well of course I proved him wrong not really intending to do that very thing, I bought a house, I have my car that’s paid off, I can support myself AND I don’t need a husband to give me what I can get for myself.  A Ph.D would be the huge cherry on the fuck you sundae of shit he has to eat every time my oldest son goes and visits his dad.  Because apparently the douche canoe always asks about me, and my son doesn’t divulge much but does tell him some of the things I’ve accomplished.  I’m sure him asking about his ex-wife of over 23 years goes over very well with his current wife.  Yes, I’m being sarcastic there because I know she hates it whenever she hears my name.  Do I care?  Oh FUCK NO I DON’T.  So I may just go back to school, who knows because this fatigue I have has me feeling like total crap.  Anyway, I want to wish all of you a very Happy Thanksgiving!!!

Until next time……this is the Huntress, saying…”Don’t be a Moth Around a Dim Yellow Bulb, Be a Moth to a Flame, Make it worth the Burn!”

Published by thehuntress915

My life has been a lot like the movie Bridget Jones Diary (the Hispanic version) constant comedic struggles and life lessons learned by way of personal experience. I've survived divorce and online dating debacles, so tag along for the ride and lets laugh together.

26 thoughts on “Happy Thanksgiving and All That Jazz

  1. When would you have time for classes? I think that if you can find a subject to be enthused about, it would be a great opportunity, especially since you wouldn’t have to pay for it. If you didn’t have such a long drive. Of course, the days you have classes you could maybe stay overnight in a hotel so that you wouldn’t have to make the drive late at night and then turn around and do it again without as much sleep.
    And don’t minimize the rage from menopause – it’s real and it’s intense. Unless you’re an all around calm person to begin with.
    Have a great Thanksgiving, and your boss seems like he’s really in your corner!

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    1. Hey Barb! Oh no, I wouldn’t have to do any overnight stays because at this university, employees can take one class during the day, while at work! My boss has already given me the okay for this, should I choose to go ahead and actually decide to get my doctorate. And my boss does seem to be a bit more grounded compared to the others I’ve had. But then again the others I’ve had have all been women. He’s a man so maybe that has a lot to do with his attitude. Yes I’ve already begun to feel some of the unwanted symptoms of menopause but those that are the most severe are fatigue and sleeplessness. With slight anger issues every now and then. You have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving as well!


  2. We’ve always paid yearly car registration and tax, and state income tax. I love living here… but boy do we pay for the privilege.
    Menopause? I’d roll out the welcome wagon but don’t have the energy. I never had the anger but between the hot flashes and weight gain…I wouldn’t mind putting my fist through a wall some days.
    “Dr. Huntress” would totally rock. And the fact that’s it’s free makes it pretty hard to say no. I’d give that some serious thought.
    The first holiday without a parent is tough, no matter how old you are. Hold those boys close. 💕

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    1. I know Texans get a lot of flack here in NM, believe me I’ve had some serious conversations having to explain the entire state of Texas to two New Mexicans. In one case apologizing profusely for the idiot governor alone, who won the reelection, fml.

      The menopause welcome wagon can wait, really don’t put yourself out, lol. I agree that Dr. Huntress would totes rock…….and that it’s free? Yes please!!

      It will be tough this year, my dad loved the holidays, even more than most kids I’d say. I’m just glad I still have my mom and of course my boys. I hope you and the hubs have a wonderful Thanksgiving, and give Sir Dudley a belly scratch for me!

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      1. My ultra liberal, left wing, hippie-ish sister in law married a Texas boy and moved there decades ago. Now? She works for an oil company, drives a massive red neck pickup and voted for Trump. I don’t even know who she is anymore.
        We’re having Thanksgiving with close friends, always a good time and long overdue. Lord Dudley will have to make do with leftovers.

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    1. Lmao, I know there isn’t a funny side to menopause. But some times hearing other women’s stories help me. So it makes me feel better about what I’m going through. But then again I’ve always had a bad temper so I’m not really sure if It’s menopause or just my personality in general, lol. I haven’t had a good tamale in years because my mom hadn’t made them in a while because she’s getting older. But, this Christmas we’re going to try our best to get her recipe right!

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      1. Oh, I tell you, it’s the weirdest thing…I mean, I’ve been in customer service for years, been a substitute teacher, and even worked in a correctional facility for juveniles briefly–a job where you really have to keep your cool, and I go around feeling like Kathy Bates’ character in Fried Green Tomatoes! It’s like I’m all of a sudden really vocal about not putting up with all this…I won’t cuss on someone else’s blog, but I figure you can fill in the blanks…Ha!

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  3. Ooh, a Ph.D— love the sound of Doctor Huntress. And then you could give out menopause advice and if anyone questioned it, all you’d have to say is Hey! I’m a doctor. As for the menopause, it gets better eventually, and I never even needed to exercise 😉

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    1. Thanks Suzanne, I’m getting to like the sound of Dr. Huntress 🤔😁.
      I’m new to this menopause thing, I mean I thought I was still too young to hit menopause so early in life. But it’s definitely here…..ugh.

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      1. That’s what my doctor told me as well, I had a hysterectomy at 43 and said menopause might come on early because of that. And guess what!?! It fucking did! At least hot flashes aren’t an issue anymore thank goodness because I was on the verge of homicide 🔪🪓.


  4. I looked it up, and only one county in NM requires emissions testing for vehicles–that is INSANE to me!

    We’re both going through menopause-induced burnout, which supercharges both fatigue and anger. I’m so over it. Mother Nature is one cruel bitch.

    Enjoy Thanksgiving with your family! My son will be in OK with his dad, half brother, and paternal grandparents. My daughter will be on the coast with her husband’s family. We haven’t had a holiday celebration with my extended family since 2018–the family’s last hurrah together after my grandmother passed right before Christmas in 2017…no more need for pretenses, I guess. That left me, my husband, and my mom–so, we’re going out to eat at a high-end restaurant on Thanksgiving. No muss, no fuss.

    While paying for a PhD is a huge benefit, you will also need to find the energy to spend on classes and such. My advice is to not rush into it. The benefit isn’t going anywhere and will be there when, and if, you’re ready. Do what’s right for YOU–who gives a crap what your ex (or anyone else) thinks?

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    1. It is insane!as progressive as the state claims to be they allow everyone with a bad running car to just pollute the hell out of the environment there. It’s seems we are having tandem menopause burnout, all because Eve couldn’t keep her grubby hands off the apple and listening to a lying ass snake! So yes, Mother Nature is definitely a sadistic bitch.
      Going out to dinner seems like a perfect idea! You enjoy yourself and not having to cook, clean and wash countless dishes afterwards! Good for you my friend, have a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday!

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      1. I forgot to add, yes a Ph.D sounds good. But this burnout isn’t something I want to deal with as I attempt to research, write and defend a thesis. My state of mind isn’t where I want to go back to school right now.


  5. Menopause wagon doesn’t necessarily hit everyone – sailed through mine, barely noticed it, sorry for all the sufferers. Best reason for study is because you are interested in the subject – do it for you, not the way it affects other people

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    1. Wow, that’s great Caroline, that you didn’t suffer through menopause. I’m glad and wondered if anyone didn’t have a severe case. Yes, I agree I am interested in a Ph.D but I’m pretty sure I’m done as far as school is concerned. Im too old to be a doctoral candidate.


      1. Never too old, unfortunately. These days education is endless – and it at least gives you a goal to work towards. If you are interested, I’d go for it…though you may end up with less time for blogging

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