THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY

The last two weeks has been a whirlwind of good, bad and ugly.  In that order so on with the show!

Brand Spankin’ New JOB!!!!!

After nine months of looking for a job (I mean other than the horrible one I have now) I finally hit pay dirt and I got hired at another university!!!  Said university is in New Mexico but from where I live it’s only a 30-minute drive.  I calculated the miles because I interviewed in person for this job and it’s actually farther to go visit my mom at her house than it is to get to my new job.  I’m going to be the program manager for a department for research in space exploration/engineering.   I’m excited as FUCK and I start on Monday.   And to add to the excitement they offered me $5K more than I was making at my last job, so you know I’m psyched as hell!!!

Meanwhile back in HellPaso at my soon to be old job, I’m fighting with HR to get my 33 hours of vacation paid out.  These motherfuckers told me I have to have been in this position exactly one year to have any vacation hours paid out and I’m like, are you fucking kidding me?!?!  I’ve appealed but I doubt it will happen.  And the one person I’m going to miss is my coworker who made this job bearable, seriously I’m so going to miss his sarcasm and humor, we had fun together. I’m so done with working here, so on to bigger and better things!

Swim Faster Your Sinking!

It certainly does

Yes people I sank and sank fast.  For two weeks I was heavily courted by JMR, swimming every morning by 6am, coffee and breakfast and classic movies from TCM at my house.  But here’s that kicker, I’m a sucker for communication, any communication.  I’m not talking smothering kind of communication but open dialog a couple of times a day.  When JMR would leave my house around 10am every day, I wouldn’t hear from him until the next morning when he’d text me that he was on his way to pick me up to go swimming.   We had a great time those two weeks and when it was time for our film festival date?  He was charming, polite and funny.  I sat through four hours of Lawrence of Arabia and I actually enjoyed it.  Then after he took me to dinner at a restaurant downtown across the street from the theater.  It’s a ritzy restaurant and I’d been there before with my old hag of a boss and although the food is good it quite pricy.  But that’s where he wanted to take me so I let him, and we sat and ate dinner and talked for two and a half hours the food was good and so was the conversation.  When the waiter brought the check, he was in the men’s room and I glanced at the total and it was $152.00!  On our drive home I even offered to make him dinner and he even offered his newly remodeled kitchen before he moved out. By the time he dropped me off it was 9:45 at night, I mean I’m in bed by that time on a weekday, this was Thursday.  Hell I’m in bed by that time on a weekend, who am I kidding here.  And then he picked me up the following day for our daily morning swim and coffee session, he left my house on Friday morning at 10:15am…………….

And I haven’t heard from or seen him since! After our disastrous date last year I thought I’d give him the benefit of the doubt since he’s the one that pursued me this last time hard core. I mean constant texts, invite after invite to the pool, hell he even offered to pay for one-month membership to the pool for me. He’s moving to the west side of town and won’t be swimming here after this week is over. I know he’s moving his things but, seriously? On Monday I got up at 5:45am to get ready for him to pick me up to go swimming and by about 6:00am I get a text telling me he’s not going to swim that day. So I figured okay, Tuesday we’ll resume our routine but nope, I got up again at the same time got ready and waited……and waited…….and waited. By 6:45am I sent him a text and he replied with he’s not going swimming at all this week because he’s busy moving his things from his house (which he’s renting via Air B&B after an extensive remodel) to a new duplex on the west side. In my head I was like “well thanks for letting me know asshole!” So here we are Weds and I haven’t heard anything from him whatsoever. Although I’ve gone to the pool by myself at night when it’s not so crowded because I really like the workout since I haven’t been running. And just like that, this…..whatever this was sank like the Titanic at the bottom of the relationship pool.

I have two BFF’s who are polar opposites, one is a romantic optimist who believes in second, third and fourth chances in everyone and everything. The other an eternal cynic, skeptical of everything and everyone but I suppose it’s a defense mechanism on her part. When I told both of them about JMR one was “OMG that’s great! I knew there was a potential connection between the two of you, I’m so happy!” And the other was “I don’t like JMR, he’s shown you he isn’t trustworthy, and you need to be careful.” Yes, those were their exact words and now I’m thinking my cynical friend was right about him since I haven’t heard from him at all this week but to tell me he’s not going swimming at all. I thought since we’d been doing this for two weeks, he’d think maybe I needed to know so I wouldn’t wake up so fucking early and wait for him?!?! Careless and definitely not trustworthy and with that said I’m so done with this man who proved me wrong when I thought he’d changed and was ghosted by him. Thank goodness it happened before I got attached to the motherfucker.

Until next time……this is the Huntress, saying…”Don’t be a Moth Around a Dim Yellow Bulb, Be a Moth to a Flame, Make it worth the Burn!”

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