A couple of days ago a “guy” friend of mine that reads my blog but doesn’t blog himself, gave me some ideas for some future blog posts. He sat in front of me as we had lunch together and after he gave me his thoughts on my I’m Stressed blog post, he said this….
“You know I love your blog, your hilarious and you have a way with words but, maybe you could tone down the man-bashing”
*Gasp*……What the literal fuck, I thought to myself.
I pondered his reply for a bit as I ate my lunch across from him as he ate the biggest, juiciest apple in all of appledom. His crunchy-bitey consumption made my contemplation just a tad difficult. But then I thought, wait a cotton-pickin’ minute here, I don’t bash “men”, I bash ONE man in particular, okay two if you count my idiot ex-hubs. But man-bash in general, no siree, I’m a lover of men (DO NOT take that out of context y’all, you know who you are!)
Before I told him to desist on his huge Granny Smith, crunchy-bitey noisy pre-lunch apple (who eats an apple BEFORE they eat their lunch?) I thought, I am not a man-basher, and I don’t man-bash, man-hate, manslaughter (unless its justified) any man, and here’s proof. I’ve gotten to know a lot of the male bloggers since I began my blog a little over a year ago. I have nothing but respect and admiration for them. My friend mentioned that my male blogger friends don’t count, but of course they do I said, and here’s proof why, they’ve given me a new, higher respect for men in general, they have officially re-educated and rehabilitated me to a new Huntress with their positive reinforcement and kindness.
Simon from Beyond the Infinite – He’s a techy, sciency, lover of sci-fi and we’ve had fun getting to know each other’s blogs, I comment on his, he comments on mine (sometimes, lol). He’s from England, and we’ve had that America/England, who’s better, bigger, more sophisticated, what’s better English food or American food (I know who’s right here, lol) conversation/argument. But I’ve never, ever man-bashed him, his blog or even his choices about anything. He has opinions, and I respect them because he’s never done anything to offend or hurt me in anyway. He is one of my very first male blogger friends.
Bryan Fagan at A Crack In The Pavement – Our very first interaction was about muscle car porn, yep you heard that right. And believe it or not, so many would have, could have taken that conversation out of context. But Bryan was ever the gentleman and has been ever since. Okay the car porn was about a 1960’s something red Corvette with white leather interior. We’ve been blog buddies ever since, and he too has always been supportive of me and other bloggers in their writing.
Paul at The Captain’s Speech – What can I say about Paul? Other than his writing talent is in a league of its own, how he manages to have entire conversations by himself, I mean that IS talent! Or he might actually have a twin we know nothing about but I’ll let him tell us in due time. He’s a Bachelorette watcher/commentator and has taught us all to clean windows and adapt to the new Twitters (as my mom would say). He’s a font of information and he has not once, NOT ONCE uttered a curse word in his blog. Well, not that I’ve found and believe me I’ve looked really, really hard!
Christopher at Freethinkers Anonymous – He was also one of the very first blogger friends I came across when I began writing. He has what I’d always thought was my dream job, he works in a library! He’s posted about art, his hometown of Nashville and all the goings-on thereof. He’s also posted about rejection (writing rejections) in THE most comical way possible. He has an outlook on life that is precious, and he’s always been nothing but supportive of my blog and posts. He once offered to rent me a black Trans-Am so I could pull a Smokey and the Bandit drive to work, he mentioned that if he could he would and that’s enough for me.
Tom at Tom Being Tom – Tom’s love of golden retrievers is priceless, his ability to explain what’s going on in his life will almost always make you stop and think about life itself. He was brutally honest in his recent birthday post about all the challenges he was faced with facing financial ups and downs, which I know all too well. But he’s always had words of wisdom to share and yet he’s another man-blogger (hey I should trademark that) that has always been supportive of my blog along with so many others.
Evil at Evil Squirrels Nest – Lover of all things squirrely and crittery (yes that’s a word, I just made up) who’s views on everyday happenings bring a sarcastic smile to my face and sometimes wonder why someone has not invented mental Clorox because, well let’s just say sometimes one needs mental Clorox! But in spite of his hate of squirrel haters, humidity and rain, he’s a great blogger friend. Also he’s a pretty awesome graphic artist as well.
John at Nowhere Tribune – His tales of armadillo tattoos and rampant teacakes will have you laughing, crying and scratching your head. A fellow Texan and a lover of nature, vacation mishapper, the Clark Griswold if you will of family vacations (that’s a compliment by the way!) He’s been another man-blogger that has remained true to Texan nature, a gentleman always…..that probably carries a gun but that’s okay, I respect that.
There are so many more of you I couldn’t possibly include everyone, but I thank you just as much! I have a couple of male friends in my life, two of whom read my blog and one who knew of Lestat, and all of my male blogger friends whom I respect and admire. So, I’m not a man-basher, I don’t man-bash men in general. I bash those men that have given me a reason to bash them, and only them in particular, whereas their stupidity, incompetence, mental instability and everything else they did to get me to the selective man-bashing I do. I love men (again GET YOUR MIND OUT OF THE GUTTER, you know who you are!) and even with my online dating debacles I wasn’t bashing all men, I was bashing some dates and their bad behavior.
Hey, it’s not my fault if they made bad first impressions, I know I’ve made a bad impression on men, especially when they see you making that bad impression on the hood of their Ford F-150 with a baseball bat or sledge hammer, but hey that guy deserved it.
I have met a few good men, and they are kind, hard working decent men, who take care of themselves and their families. I have known a few single dads who have worked two jobs to support their kids, who will always, ALWAYS prefer to spend the weekend with their kids instead of going out partying. I’ve known of some dads who have full custody of their kids and work tirelessly to make sure they are clothed, fed, sheltered and most of all, LOVED! I’ve also known some men who are generous, loving, giving and selfless when it comes to their wives, girlfriends, sisters and moms.
So, I don’t man bash, unless someone, some man, does something stupid, to me or one of my friends that is plain mean, selfish, or self serving without thinking of the consequences or how he will hurt another human being. A great big thank you to all my male-blogger friends and your continuous support, encouragement and respect.
Until next time remember, chin up, soldier on and watch you back!